03 May 2023, 3:40 AM
NARROMINE's Amanda Ferrari is the owner/manager of the Boarding Schools Expo Australia.
She hosts events around the country to connect schools with parents and prospective students.
Amanda spoke recently to Buy from the Bush about what it all means for families in towns like ours.
1. What do you see as the biggest hurdle for parents sending children to boarding school?
Apart from the obvious, which for many is financial, the actual emotional tussle is at times overwhelming. Whether you went to boarding school yourself, or you’re a ‘first generation’ boarding family the process of preparing your child, and then sending them to boarding school is one that will pull on your heart strings for a very long time. I really do empathise with families of new boarders – it takes me right back to organising, labelling, packing, the car journey and the drop off. It’s not easy but it’s a long game that will come with a host of rewards.
2. How is the high school experience different for a border (than a day student)?
I was a day student that dreamed of being a boarder…. I could see the boarders’ sense of belonging, the depth of their friendships, their confident belief in their place in the world. A boarder (whether they know it or not) has consistency, routine, camaraderie, academic support at all hours, sporting opportunities at their fingertips….the experience is entirely different. I have seen day students become weekly boarders for these very reasons.
There are of course times when boarders need their space or feel overwhelmed with competing interests or negative relationships. Schools are so much better these days at supporting boarders through times like this – they recognise that boarders can’t just go home at the end of the day and ‘chill out’ alone. It can be a challenge at times to balance the emotional needs of the boarding student with communal living. Though, by far, the positives outweigh the negatives tenfold.
3. What are some of the unforeseen or unexpected benefits of a boarding school experience?
For the boarder developing independence sees them complete their schooling ready to transition and for country kids already adept at living away from home that makes further education a very realistic prospect. Be that university, apprenticeship, or a Gap year Overseas.
I cannot ignore Resilience… The word is bandied around often, but you’ll find it pretty apt. Boarders have to think on their feet, they have to solve issues that might normally be solved around the kitchen bench at home, they have to build tolerance of others, they play, study and live in a diverse community, they have to have difficult conversations at times …and they get up every morning and do it all again. That’s resilience building.
For the families there’s the building of a community away from home. Lifelong friends will be made.
4. What are the critical steps to making a decision on where to send your kids?
Listen to word of mouth but don’t make it your only measure. Everyone’s experience of a school is different – you can’t pick a year group that’s luck of the draw.
Research, read, shortlist, visit – obviously our website is an amazing resource for families with almost 20 years of resources and over 165 Australian boarding schools profiled
Consider your financial situation – there are great boarding schools at a variety of budgets.The school you went to may not be the right school for your child please keep your options and your mindset open.
Visit an Expo !
The Dubbo expo is this coming weekend.